Invited Wedding Guest
So I came across a rather interesting rant by a blogger about a wedding invitation she received. Having worked with several couples myself, designing their wedding invitations, I immediately felt bad for this couple she slammed, “her friends.”
After reading the comments from her article, I felt inclined to post one of my own. This screenshot below shows how the blogger begins her rant.
She’s a single mom who cannot afford the time or money required to attend this destination wedding in Thailand. She can’t understand why she was even invited, her friends should know better and should’ve saved their money as she assumed the invitations had to cost many thousands of dollars. What a waste, she says.
Pretty much every response to her article was commenting how ungrateful, bitter and selfish she sounds. It shouldn’t matter if a guest can or cannot make it for whatever the reason. This rarely comes into play when couples decide who should and shouldn’t receive a wedding invitation. Sure, you can guesstimate a final headcount but the truth is, you just never know. Bottom line, it is an honor to receive an invite at all.
Who Makes the Cut
Typically a guest list consists of family, friends, and coworkers. Then invited guests who are an extension of those relationships. The guest list is the first of many stressful parts to planning a wedding. As most have an opinion on who they think should be invited. But as the guest list grows so does the final cost with many vendors. Not including the space needed to accommodate those wedding guests. Many if not all venues have a capacity limit and fire code.
Ok. Wedding invitations stuffed with confetti I can see being a hit or real miss with guests. If you feel inclined, ask yourself is it necessary and will falling paper flakes set the tone for the wedding theme. Maybe save the confetti for the big day instead. I mean just look at how beautiful this shot below is. So much fun!
She goes on to complain about the overall packaging and the information on the multiple cards.
What to include on/with a wedding invitation
The main invitation should simply state Who, What, When, Where. Invitation wording is another stressful part. I’ve seen and heard opinions voiced loud and clear over who should and shouldn’t be included on the wedding invitation. Though I have a few ways around this awkwardness for couples, it may be a good idea to talk to your family individually and in private if you’re unsure who to mention.
…. Seven different cards fell out.
In addition to the main wedding invitation, additional cards are used to collect rsvps, share hotel/travel information, and to refer guests to a wedding website to find more details. A wedding registry and or the mention of money preferred should NEVER be listed. This couple the blogger is ranting about did just that. Most consider this rude and is actually against proper wedding etiquette. Save this information for the wedding website, bridal shower or spread by word of mouth.
A bulleted itinerary is most often given to guests who are staying in the blocked hotel rooms and not included with the invitation. An itinerary can also be listed on the wedding website. The trend for wedding invitations today, less is more. When deciding which information is crucial for guests to have in hand, consider one-two cards with information consolidated and a reference to your wedding website for more details.
The final presentation of a wedding invitation should be neat, clean and organized with a vision flow consistent throughout. After all this is a formal event regardless black tie or not and should be presented to invited guests as such. Clearly they notice and have an opinion- And I’ve heard plenty over the years at bridal shows from couples and their families sharing their experience to my own family and friends. Everyone has an opinion and something to say.
Now I can understand given today’s technology and fast paced living why many would consider a digital invitation. Sure, it’s super easy and less time consuming all around for the couple and guests invited. But how would that come across to you if you received an emailed digital wedding invitation? After all a wedding is not a birthday party, craft fair, bbq, or simple get-together. This is a formal occasion, couples shell out a ton of money to make their day special and memorable. And isn’t it exciting to actually pull something pretty out of your mailbox when everything is paperless these days?
Bottom line, every couple is their own unique and a wedding day should reflect that. Lets give your guests something to talk about by setting the tone for your wedding with an invitation they’ll treasure to hold.